Lee Latchford-Evans and his wife Kerry-Lucy are thrilled to announce they’re expecting their first child, a little boy! But the wonderful news follows a period of intense heartbreak for the couple, who suffered a devastating miscarriage within weeks of Lee losing his dad and Kerry-Lucy’s mum passing away.
Here, VIP readers can exclusively read Lee and Kerry-Lucy’s moving account of the tragedy, as well their joy at the news of their forthcoming baby.
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When OK! catch up with Lee Latchford-Evans and his wife Kerry-Lucy, the couple are beaming from ear to ear. And there’s a very good reason for their smiles, as they have some exciting news to share.
The couple can exclusively reveal they are expecting their first child together – and it’s a boy! “We’re scared as much as we’re excited!” laughs Steps singer Lee, 46.
But sadly the journey to get to this point hasn’t all been plain sailing. In 2018, Kerry suffered a heartbreaking miscarriage at 10 weeks and the couple were left questioning whether or not becoming parents would ever become a reality for them.
The miscarriage also came during an unimaginable four-month period that saw both Lee’s dad and Kerry’s mum pass away.
“It was a complete blur,” admits Kerry, 36, who is due in July. Lee adds, “It felt like a nightmare. We thought, ‘Surely we’re going to wake up in a minute?’”
The couple, who met in 2007 and married in 2012 in a ceremony exclusively covered by OK!, hope that opening up about their experience will help others going through the same thing.
Here, Lee and Kerry, who live in north London with their French Bulldog Luna, talk about sharing their baby joy with Lee’s bandmates and how they feel about expecting a little boy…
Congratulations! When did you find out you were expecting?
Kerry: In November. I did a test and it had a really faint line. Lee walked in and I said, “I think I’m pregnant.” Lee’s eyesight isn’t the best and he said, “There’s definitely no pink line.” I woke up at 4am the next day and did another and it was definitely positive. I think Lee was in shock and still half asleep so I did a digital one that said “pregnant” and I was like, “Do you believe me now?” It took three tests!
Did you have an inkling you were pregnant, Kerry?
Kerry: We’ve been trying for a long time. We sadly miscarried in 2018 and we’ve been trying ever since. I’m sure every woman that’s trying will tell you, you constantly do tests every month.
Lee: Kerry looked into it and bought all the gadgets to measure cycles, and for me it was kind of a double-edged sword. You want to keep on top of it if you’re trying, but then I also think on the darker side it adds a lot of pressure. Suddenly you’re on a timescale and the fun is almost taken out of it.
Kerry: It kind of becomes a bit mechanical.
We’re so sorry to hear that you had a miscarriage…
Lee: It’s not a nice thing to go through and we would just like to send out so much love to anyone who has experienced it. We’ve wanted a baby for so long. We did start thinking, “Why isn’t this working for us? What’s wrong with us?” You doubt each other slightly, but luckily we have a very strong relationship. We went through a time where all of our friends were pregnant and people were always walking past us with prams and I guess we hated that and had a bit of resentment towards them, which I know we shouldn’t but it was difficult and frustrating. I’m always quite positive, but when we went through that we had also lost my dad. He’d had his illnesses, like cancer and strokes, but then he went into hospital and was in coma for a week and he never recovered. Unfortunately my dad won’t ever meet his grandson and that’s really sad. We then lost our house rabbit Romeo and then we found out we were pregnant. We thought things were starting to turn and then we lost Kerry’s mum and then shortly after that we lost the baby. This was all in four months.
Kerry: With both our parents it was heart attacks so it was completely out of the blue and unexpected. I was there until the very end to witness my mum’s last breath in the arms of my dad and that will stay with me forever.
We can’t even imagine how difficult that time must have been…
Kerry: It was a complete blur. I look back and find it hard to believe that all happened to us, losing my father-in-law, my mum and the baby she also longed for – it just didn’t seem fair. I’m glad I had the opportunity to tell her I was pregnant and I also put a scan pic of the baby in with her when we said goodbye as she never got to see it.
Lee: Like I said, I try to stay positive in everything I do and to me there is always somebody worse off than you – but in that moment I was thinking, “I’m not sure anybody is worse off.” We’d gone through so much. I think it actually made us stronger as a couple. Our friends couldn’t believe what we were going through and the band couldn’t comprehend it. What’s difficult for me was going on
TV and doing interviews with Steps, and they’re always asked questions about their children and I had to live with that. But our management and the band were really great and supportive.
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How many weeks along were you, Kerry?
Kerry: I found out when I was 10 weeks. It was classed as a missed miscarriage. I remember it being the day of my mum’s funeral and we were alone in my dad’s house and I said, “I don’t feel pregnant.” All the symptoms had gone and I knew deep down something wasn’t right. Lee tried to comfort me and tried to tell me it’d be OK.
Lee: As a man you feel lonely and quite helpless. You feel like a waste of space. We blamed the stress we were going through but we were told there was no reason. You can’t blame yourself. I look back on it now like it was a soap opera – you couldn’t write it.
You’ve worked with Tommy’s and Cruse Bereavement Care. Did you go to them for help?
Kerry: I was drawn to Tommy’s because it gives so much help and information from people who have suffered miscarriages.
Lee: I did work with Cruse Bereavement Care when we went through our parents passing away and losing the baby. I think grief in general is different for everybody. People say “life moves on”, but you never fully get over it, you just learn to live with it.
Kerry: When it first happened I didn’t handle it as well as I think I could have done. I didn’t have the one person who I could talk to – my mum – there to guide me through the loss. I felt like the baby was the only part I had left of my mum, and then that was gone along with her – it was heartbreaking. It was a bit of a taboo subject, but recently I think it’s being discussed more. I didn’t talk to any of my friends for a good month or two. I shut off from the world. When I did speak to my friends, it amazed me how many of them had miscarried and did exactly what I’d done and didn’t speak about it. But for some people that is the right thing. They say one in four pregnancies ends in miscarriage but I think it’s more.
Lee: There were definitely more than that when we were at the hospital. It was horrific.
Kerry: You have to go to the emergency scanning section of the hospital. I felt like I was one of the lucky ones. Even though I was in pain, I could hear these women screaming in the waiting room and down the corridor.
Lee: Having that scan where they check for the heartbeat and there isn’t one is horrific.
Kerry: There was just a silence in the room. I looked at Lee and just started crying as he gripped my hand so tight.
Does it feel extra special to be expecting again now?
Kerry: Yes. People say once you’re past the 12-week mark the risk of miscarriage lowers, so I’m trying to enjoy it.
Lee: It’s a mix of joy but also worry. You think, “Is it going to happen again?” For us our safety net was the 20-week scan.
Kerry: Lee was also able to be at that one. Because of Covid-19, he couldn’t come to the 12-week scan, which was really difficult.
Lee: That 12-week scan where he stretched his legs and opened his fingers is something I missed. It’s sad and I’ll never get it back, but as long as he’s healthy that’s what matters.
How did you feel when you found out you’re expecting a boy?
Kerry: I was convinced I was having a girl. We went to this lovely place for a private scan as I wanted Lee to be there. If it’s a boy the room goes blue – or pink for a girl. When the room turned blue, it was strange. I wasn’t disappointed or upset, I was actually genuinely really happy, it was a lovely surprise.
Lee: I think we just subliminally had girl in our head because everyone around us bar one person said it was going to be a girl. It’s cliché but we want a healthy baby, but I did feel really proud it’s a boy.
How did you tell the rest of Steps, Lee?
Lee: On Zoom. We had a meeting about our year ahead and we were going through what we’d be doing in August and September and so on, and I said, “I might be quite busy in August,” and I held up our first scan picture to the camera and said, “I want you to meet someone.” I filmed their reaction. They were fantastic. They cried, they cheered! H [Ian Watkins] said, “Willies are best!” [Laughs]
How do you feel about now being able to be part of their parenting conversations?
Lee: It will be nice to be part of those conversations where I couldn’t before. It’s the side that people don’t think about. But to be fair to the guys, they don’t push it in my face – they will have conversations about their children and why shouldn’t they? I remember when I introduced all the Steps children on stage at Wembley Arena on our last tour, I had mixed emotions of happiness and pride for all my band members but also heartache for me and Kerry not having that opportunity. But I would never take that moment and memory away from them. Hey, now we can do it again and have all the kids on stage.
You’re scheduled to be on tour in November when the baby is only a few months old, Lee. How are you both feeling about that?
Lee: I love touring and being with the guys, but I know I’m going to hate being away.
Kerry: Lee has never been one to go to parties. I’ll try to visit with the baby. I would love for him to share that with Lee so we can look back at pictures and show him he was there on stage with his daddy.
Lee: I’ll do the Lion King lift with him on stage [laughs]. I was never someone who was in clubs until 2am and I’m not a big drinker. I always miss Kerry whenever I’m away.
Kerry: I’m the opposite. I say, “Take this time to let your hair down.” I’m so used to him being away and I have a lot of people around me for support. Before lockdown we hardly saw each other!
Do you think lockdown helped you get pregnant as you had more time together?
Kerry: It certainly de-stressed us a bit. Lee hasn’t worked so he’s been at home.
Lee: Yeah, the only stress for me, especially in the entertainment industry where there is no furlough, was that there wasn’t a penny coming in for us. But luckily I’m somebody who has been careful and has saved. We can survive and now with it all turning around we have the tour coming up and promoting our new single with Michelle Visage, which has been great.
Have the dynamics in the band changed as you’ve got older?
Lee: No, it’s amazing how they haven’t. We definitely found our places very quickly. When the band first got together we gave ourselves silly names like “Smiley Steps, Sensible Steps, Party Steps”. I’m still the big brother and the “Sensible Steps”. We still have a lot of respect and love for each other and we know when to distance ourselves from each other now. Lisa [Scott-Lee] and Faye [Tozer] were “Party Steps”, but as the years have gone on Claire [Richards] is definitely catching them up. Maybe having children has made her revert to the prosecco!
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