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A Father’s Day Special: Candid conversations between dads and their children

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While documenting the bond between these fathers and their children over a series of frivolous questions with deeper meaning, we had them dress each other up. Watch their candid conversations in the video below and read the hilarious transcript after the jump.

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Anna Vanessa Haotanto, partner at ABZD Capital and her father Habtanto

Anna is wearing a white silk floral prints dress from Hugo and leather heels from Jimmy Choo. Anna's father is wearing a striped cotton shirt and navy blue cotton knit pullover from Polo Ralph Lauren.

Anna is wearing a white silk floral prints dress from Hugo and leather heels from Jimmy Choo. Anna’s father is wearing a striped cotton shirt and navy blue cotton knit pullover from Polo Ralph Lauren.

What are your favourite memories of each other?

Anna: Him cooking for me. I’m very bratty, so I’m always asking him to cook the dishes that I want [laughs]. He makes a fantastic Indonesian sambal.

Habtanto: My favourite memory is of her always trying to win every game against me!

What have you learnt from each other?

Anna: I have learnt to be very patient with people, and especially with those I love. My dad is extremely patient and a very kind man. These qualities are the biggest things I’ve learnt from him.

Habtanto: I think…

Anna: You’ve never learnt anything from me [laughs].

Habtanto: That she is a very determined woman. Whatever she sets out to do, she’ll get it done, no matter what it is.

What is the one thing that has you the proudest of each other?

Anna: Since young, my dad has always believed in me – more than I even believed in myself. This gave me a lot of confidence. I’m very proud that he has so much trust in me even though I don’t trust myself a lot of the time.

Habtanto: She’s becoming a fine lady. She has achieved a lot and become what she wants to be. That she’s happy and owns what she does makes me proud. I think she’s already done what she’s supposed to in this life. She’s a lot better than me.

Anna, what do you want to say to your dad this Father’s Day?

Happy Father’s Day. Thank you for loving me and teaching me how to love.

Jon Chua, founder of Zendyll Records and his father Sebastian

Jon is wearing a geometric print cotton knit sweater and  cotton striped trousers from Dolce & Gabbana, and white leather sneakers, from Boss. Jon's father is wearing a cotton short sleeved shirt and black quilted bomber jacket from Dunhill.

Jon is wearing a geometric print cotton knit sweater and

cotton striped trousers from Dolce & Gabbana, and white leather sneakers, from Boss. Jon’s father is wearing a cotton short sleeved shirt and black quilted bomber jacket from Dunhill.

What are your favourite memories of each other?

Jon: When I was young, and he was younger, we would go to the market together to eat, and I remember that my father would always order porridge and char kway teow. It was a distinctive memory because it’s such a weird combination. I don’t think I know of anyone else who eats char kway teow with porridge. In hindsight, it makes sense because one is oily and the other, clean. When you mix them, you get a huge carbohydrate overload that is still quite balanced to a certain extent.

Sebastian: One of the memories that I cherish to this day is when we travelled to the US after his A Levels and before he entered National Service. We were there for more than a month, visiting friends and going to different states. And he loves the guitar, right?

Jon: Oh yes, I remember this. We even visited Alabama. Which Asian goes to Alabama when visiting the US, right? We did. And then my dad brought me to New Orleans. Its strong musical culture reinforced my passion for music.

What are some of the things you’ve learnt from each other?

Jon: I’ve learnt two important things from my dad from a young age: the value of money and not taking things for granted. When something is given to you, you are blessed and my dad always says that it’s better to be a blessing to others, whether it’s our community or your loved ones. These two lessons have shaped me as an adult.

Sebastian: I’ve learnt that Jon is very hard-working and diligent. When he sets his mind on something, he works hard to achieve it. He’s a disciplined man.

Jon: Did I teach you to be more disciplined?

Sebastian: I’m still learning [laughs].

Jon: I probably got the discipline trait from my mother then [laughs].

Jon, what would you like to say to your dad this Father’s Day?

My dad is not controlling. He never forces me or puts me in a room. He’s always been supportive. When I was playing basketball competitively in school, he would come to every game. And when I lost one, instead of coming over to say hello, he’d let me be because he always knew when I needed my space. Throughout my 20s, I got to travel the world but I missed a lot of family occasions: birthdays, Christmas, Chinese New Year. But my parents never once held this against me. Instead, he always gave me room to pursue my dreams and passions. I was never forced to do anything based on tradition or what they wanted. They always let me do what I wanted as long as I wasn’t committing a crime [laughs]. So, I want to say thank you, Dad, for that.

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Lester Tay, CEO of Rockstead Capital Group and his son Colin

Lester is wearing a cotton printed t-shirt, #UseTheExisting soft shell jacket and  ivory cotton cargo pants from Z Zegna. His white & green leather sneakers are from Jimmy Choo. His son is wearing a green cotton jacket and khaki cotton chino pants from Polo Ralph Lauren.

Lester is wearing a cotton printed t-shirt, #UseTheExisting soft shell jacket and

ivory cotton cargo pants from Z Zegna. His white & green leather sneakers are from Jimmy Choo. His son is wearing a green cotton jacket and khaki cotton chino pants from Polo Ralph Lauren.

What are some of your favourite memories?

Colin: My favourite was when we cooked curry puff together.

Lester: You were wearing your Liverpool jersey? Mine was probably during last year’s circuit breaker period. Instead of nagging at him for playing video games, I decided to play Roblox together.

What have you learnt from each other?

Colin: I learnt how to make an omelette from my dad.

Lester: [laughs] It’s not only about food, you know? What I’ve learnt from Colin is to live life fully. Not recklessly but to live life for the experience and not just for the sake of doing something.

Are you proud of each other?

Colin: Yes. I am because he is the boss of his company.

Lester: [laughs] I’m proud that he takes his work seriously. He plays hard and studies hard. And, as you can see, he also takes his food very seriously.

What is one secret about being a dad that you’d like to share with Colin?

Lester: Hmm. That he has to share his mother with me. When he’s around, I can never get near my wife because he’s very possessive. If I attempt to hug her, he will say: ‘Go hug your mother, don’t hug mine.’

Colin: I prepared a present for Father’s Day.

Lester: Really? It’s a surprise – and you’re just now telling me?!

Colin: But I’m not telling you what it is.

Lester: Something to do with my hobbies?

Colin: Something to do with food but not real food.

Lester: [laughs] Do you have any other hobbies besides food?

Colin: Yes, I like Lego, watching TV and playing badminton, too.

Lester: What are my hobbies?

Colin: Using the phone and watching TV [Lester laughs]. And maybe playing the drums. That’s all I know.

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